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Dealing with a Rebellious Child

Parents,

More than likely I don’t need to define rebellion to you. You’ve seen it with your own eyes, but for the sake of us being on the same page, here ya go: Rebellion is resistance and/or defiance to authority. As parents we all see our children rebel at some level because, in the end, they’re created to be their own individual. When we place restraints on them, they push back.

Rebellion looks vastly different as your child ages. In the preschool years you may have experienced the tantrum, crying, and pouting when you put boundaries on them. During the school age years rebellion looks differently. It takes the form of disobedience (not doing what you’ve told them to do or doing it VERY SLOWLY) or arguing. This month we want to help you tackle dealing with a rebellious child.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/125561291/cbd793ad74

Later this month we’ll follow up with another email that will guide you through LOVING discipline that corrects rebellion.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

NOT a parenting superhero-Part 2

Parents,

Current culture says to our children, you can be anything you want to be. The truth is they can TRY to be anything that they want, but they will fail. Our children, just like us, have been uniquely designed and created for purpose. One of the biggest ideas that will help us discover that purpose is working through failure.

We allow our children to fail when we STOP overparenting. Overparenting is actually a word, and we’ve created it. Here’s the definition:

We overparent when we are excessively involved in the day to day life of our children, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations and help them succeed.

Of course we want our children to succeed. A researcher named La Ferle says this of overparenting, “We take personally the things that happen to our kids, and if our kids succeed, we are successful parents. If they fail, it’s a bad reflection on us. If we can get over that, then that’s good. Sometimes we need to step back and not use our kids as trophies.”

The Bible is clear that we are NOT enough, and it’s a good thing. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 says, “But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Let’s ban together, committing to STOP overparenting, allow our children to fail, learn from those failures, and find that true strength comes from God IN them.

Partnering with you,

Kim  Constantino

Parents-DON’T be their superhero

Parents,

Teacups are beautiful, yet they’re very fragile and must be handled with extreme care. Today, university professors call our children just that, teacups. They see college students as very fragile because of overprotection. And while teacups are aesthetically pleasing, they are rarely used and of little value to us on a day to day basis.

As parents it’s hard to watch our children fail, so often we swoop in to make sure they don’t. In the process we create children that don’t know how to fail well. This month we want to process how we can STOP being our child’s superhero, and instead, allow them to develop the courage and problem solving skills to work through any issue life hands them. Check out this month’s video link to see a glimpse into WHY we need to allow our children to fail.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/123492185/b35e13831e

Later this month we’ll delve more into how we can avoid swooping in to save the day, and we’ll take a look at what the Bible has to say about failure.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

How to Handle Bed Time without a Fight

Parents,

I’m not sure if you’ve ever had this thought, but I’ve often been jealous of a napping child. When I see a small child who doesn’t want to nap, I often think, “One of these days you’ll be wishing you could take a nap.” Sleep is very important for us as adults, but it is equally as important to children. The difference is they’re growing bodies need MORE of it than we do as adults.

“Poor sleep patterns are linked to stress, depression, memory loss, weight gain, lower attention and increased accidents” (kidshealth.org). Maybe you used to rock your little one to sleep, singing a little song as they drifted into sweet rest. With grade-school children it’s up to them to get themselves to sleep and sometimes that can be met with resistance. This month we want to walk through this issue of bedtime battles with you.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/120256969/476f2de2e5

Be checking your email inbox later this month for part 2 of Getting Your Kid to Bed without a Fight. In that email we’ll lay out a step by step guide for taking the BATTLE OUT of bedtime.

Partnering with you,

         Kim Constantino

Keeping Our Children Safe Online

Parents,

The stats say it all. 90% of children are online by 3rd grade. We live in a digital age. I mean for goodness sake, you are reading this online parenting class while connected to the Internet. The Internet is neutral, neither good or bad. However, just like real life, there can be some negative consequences if we don’t use it wisely. Never is this more true than with our kids.

If the average age of exposure to pornography is age 8, how do we protect our children from the potential negative repercussions of being connected to the world wide web? We’re going to tackle this tough subject this month. How do we keep our children safe online?

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/118525493/b901c932a4

You’re the guardian of your child’s heart, and we want to help you keep that pure by putting some boundaries on the use of your child’s mobile devices. Stay tuned for the second installment of “Keeping Our Children Safe Online.”

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Teaching children about evil in our world

         Parents,

Do you remember the first time you realized that there were REAL bad people in the world and not just in books or movies? That realization probably came during your elementary school years. It is during this stage that children begin to understand that bad things happen in our world. When our children are faced with this reality, it begs us, the parent, to ask, how do I talk to my child about evil; that evil is real, that it exits?

We want to help you navigate how to talk candidly with your child about evil, while at the same time protecting them from the fear and anxiety that can develop when people think about evil in our world. Check out this month’s video on How to Teach Our Children About Evil in the World.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/115113145/ab72f63a63

Later in the month I’ll be in touch with some practical steps for talking with your children about evil in the world.

Partnering with you,

         Kim Constantino

Part 2 of Perfectionism vs. Encouragement

 
Parents,

Have you ever seen your child become anxious or angry when they make a mistake? Does your little one give up easily? Is he overly cautious about tasks? Does she meltdown when things don’t go as planned? If you answered yes to these questions you probably have a perfectionist on your hands.

If you’ve seen the anxiety that’s created inside the mind of your little perfectionist, I’m guessing you want to know HOW to help them move past perfectionism in order to rationally deal with failure.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 says…
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Perspective on weaknesses goes a long way. God’s power is only made perfect in weakness. So we’re to boast in our weakness. That kind of flies in the face of our Western culture. However, His strength is what guides us. Here are some practical tools for helping your little perfectionist move toward becoming one who strives for excellence instead:

  • Don’t praise kids for achievements that come easily
  • Nix the comparison game
  • Talk openly about differences, strengths and weaknesses. We all have them. God created us uniquely with different strengths and weaknesses.
  • Be SPECIFIC with your praise. No more “You’re such a good girl.” Instead, “Thanks for taking the initiative to keep your room clean. You’re showing such responsibility.”

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

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