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To quit or not to quit...Part 2

Parents,

I hope you’ve had a chance to watch the video dealing with the subject of whether or not you should allow your child to quit an activity or walk away from a project. If not, please go back and take the time to do so soon.
We’ve all experienced times when we wanted to throw in the towel and quit something. If you don’t agree, take a minute to think about all the unfinished projects in your closet or your workshop.

Getting involved in a sport, club, or project only to discover you don’t like it or aren’t any good at it happens. The question we have to ask ourselves is when is it okay to let your kids give up and quit when this happens to them. Even Jesus walked away from situations when he knew his presence would cause more harm than good. He also instructed his disciples to leave and shake the dust off their feet in places they were not welcome. So keeping that in mind, let’s take a look at a couple of scriptures to help you help your child.

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. ~2nd Timothy 4:7
We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. ~2nd Corinthians 4:8-10

The first step in helping your kids decide when it’s okay to quit is to discuss the answer to the following question with them: How will quitting affect my life? The answer to this question will usually provide the answer to the question of “to quit…or not to quit”.
The following questions should also be asked and discussed by you and your child when making this decision.

QUESTIONS:
How will my quitting impact other people?
What will I miss out on if I quit?
Will I have the chance to try again if I choose to in the future?
Is there something I could do to change the situation without quitting?
Would this change make the situation better?
Not only will these questions help your child make good decisions, but they provide a great way to open the door to meaningful conversation between the two of you.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Helping Your Child Know When or If to Quit

Parents,
Don’t worry—this isn’t about wanting to quit being a parent. This lesson is one all parents deal with at one time or another—the issue of whether or not you should let your child quit something they are involved in.

Does letting them quit make them a failure? Are they running from responsibility? Does making them persevere make you a bad parent or is it damaging to your child’s self-confidence if they’re doing something they aren’t good at?
Follow the link to the video that will offer sound and Biblical advice for parenting your children though these situations.

Notice I said ‘these situations’ because there will be more than one. But don’t worry because I’m here to help you if you need it.

I hope this lesson will be helpful and that you will be able to take something from it that will help both you and your child feel better equipped to know when to stay and when to go.

I also want you to know how much I care about you and your family and that I am here for you.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/148892224/e50f4923a5

Partnering With You,

Kim Constantino

Preparing for Puberty, Part 2

Parents,

There will come a time in your role as a parent for you to discuss the changes going on in your child’s body. That’s where our video this month comes in.

I hope you had a chance to watch our Online Parenting Class, Preparing for Puberty. If you were able to watch, I hope you received the encouragement you need to be honest and open with your children about puberty.

I’ll say it again: when talking to your child about puberty, it is important to approach the subject honestly, openly, and age-appropriately. They aren’t looking for a biology lesson, just give them what they need to know to answer their questions. The most important thing is to keep the lines of communication open on this topic.

With all of the outside influences on children these days, it’s important to be proactive and make sure that the information they receive is accurate. Honesty…openness…and the truth of God’s Word. These are the instructions you need to be giving your children.

Partnering with you,
Kim Constantino

Preparing for Puberty, Part One

Hello,

It’s time to introduce another valuable parenting skill for the purpose of equipping you to be the parent God intends you to be.

The topic: Puberty I can almost hear the groans coming through the computer on this one, but it doesn’t have to be that way. This week’s OPC takes you to the parenting video on this subject. After watching the video you should have a healthy attitude toward developing and keeping an open dialogue with your children on the subject of puberty. My door is always open for anything you may need…whether it be prayer or sharing questions and concerns.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/148892226/540632c1b5

Partnering With You,

Kim Constantino

Fearfully and Wonderfully Made, Part Two

Parents,

I hope you’ve had a chance to watch this month’s Online Parenting Class, Overcoming Your Kid’s Failures.

A recent blog post by “Momma D” (www.mommadsayslblogspot.com) was titled “Who Decides What Different Is, Anyway?” The point made was that we’re all different, but that ‘different’ is nothing more than one’s perception of another.

I want you to see your children not as different, but rather as unique—just the way God intended them to be. So you love golf and your son would rather be hunting and fishing! And is it really the end of the world that your daughter is a girly-girl but that you don’t own a dress? These differences don’t make your kids weird, and they certainly shouldn’t be seen by you as obstacles to be overcome.

God gave us several verses in the Bible to remind us of this important truth. Take a look at a couple of them given below. Use these verses as reminders of just how uniquely wonderful your children are.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. ~Psalm 139:13-14

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. ~Genesis 1:27

Now let’s take a minute to think about some ways you can let your children know just how much you treasure their uniqueness….

Spend time on an individual basis with each of your children doing what THEY like to do. Clean a fish, paint your nails, play a (non-violent) computer game, eat sushi…whatever gives you the opportunity to share precious one-on-one time to discover just how fearfully and wonderfully made your child is.

I’d also like you to think about the fact that your words have the power to either build up or tear down your child’s self-esteem and their drive to succeed…or not.

1.Teach your children how to do things before you turn them loose with a project. Without instruction and teaching you’re simply setting them up to fail.

2.Your kids are going to make mistakes (screw some things up). You did, didn’t you? But when you teach by doing together, you not only teach your children new skills, but you enjoy quality time together. Instead of focusing on what your kids can’t do, provide them with more opportunities to do what they are good at.

3.If math doesn’t come easily to your child, trust me, they know about it. Shaming them into doing better won’t help—it will only make matters worse. So empathize with them and find ways to help them do their best.

4.Never compare your child to anyone else. We are all created in God’s image and in the words of Christian author, Darla Noble, “ God don’t make no junk!”

I hope this class was beneficial to you in your parenting journey. Your family is a blessing to this ministry.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Nobody's Perfect, Kids Included- Part One

Parents,
Happy New Year! I'm excited to say that our bi-monthly Parenting emails are back! This first one reminds me of how I've already fallen off my own New Year's Resolution, and to tell myself it's ok, no one is perfect, try again.                                                                                                                                
Nobody is perfect—you and your kids included. While I know this doesn’t come as a big surprise to you, intellectually, I also know that all too often parents choose to focus on their child’s imperfections instead of tending to their hearts.

The video this month covers the topic of allowing our children to be their unique and special self instead of what we think they should be. This is invaluable to parenting the way God intends you to. Click on the link below to watch the video on Overcoming Your Kid’s Failures.

After watching the video, please feel free to contact me with your thoughts and questions. I would also be happy to have you share with me specifics on how I can pray for your family.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/147477223/f8d4d3891d

Made In God’s Image,

Kim Constantino

How to Speak “Kid Language”, Part One

Parents,
Hello, there! How long has it been since you’ve thought about the difference between hearing and listening?

Hearing is the physical reaction of the brain to sound waves.

Listening, however, requires you to focus and make use of what you’re hearing.

I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard parents say that if their kids would listen to them things would be a lot better for the entire family. Well, guess what? I’m hoping this month’s Online Parenting Class helps you to make that happen.
The following link will take you to the parenting video that covers this important parenting issue.

Please take the time to watch and implement at least part of what you learn into your parenting ‘plan’. After watching, don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions or concerns you have about the video or your children. Let’s work together to make yours a Godly home.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/143995450/9c55eef958

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

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