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Preparing for Puberty, Part One

Hello,

It’s time to introduce another valuable parenting skill for the purpose of equipping you to be the parent God intends you to be.

The topic: Puberty I can almost hear the groans coming through the computer on this one, but it doesn’t have to be that way. This week’s OPC takes you to the parenting video on this subject. After watching the video you should have a healthy attitude toward developing and keeping an open dialogue with your children on the subject of puberty. My door is always open for anything you may need…whether it be prayer or sharing questions and concerns.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/148892226/540632c1b5

Partnering With You,

Kim Constantino

Fearfully and Wonderfully Made, Part Two

Parents,

I hope you’ve had a chance to watch this month’s Online Parenting Class, Overcoming Your Kid’s Failures.

A recent blog post by “Momma D” (www.mommadsayslblogspot.com) was titled “Who Decides What Different Is, Anyway?” The point made was that we’re all different, but that ‘different’ is nothing more than one’s perception of another.

I want you to see your children not as different, but rather as unique—just the way God intended them to be. So you love golf and your son would rather be hunting and fishing! And is it really the end of the world that your daughter is a girly-girl but that you don’t own a dress? These differences don’t make your kids weird, and they certainly shouldn’t be seen by you as obstacles to be overcome.

God gave us several verses in the Bible to remind us of this important truth. Take a look at a couple of them given below. Use these verses as reminders of just how uniquely wonderful your children are.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. ~Psalm 139:13-14

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. ~Genesis 1:27

Now let’s take a minute to think about some ways you can let your children know just how much you treasure their uniqueness….

Spend time on an individual basis with each of your children doing what THEY like to do. Clean a fish, paint your nails, play a (non-violent) computer game, eat sushi…whatever gives you the opportunity to share precious one-on-one time to discover just how fearfully and wonderfully made your child is.

I’d also like you to think about the fact that your words have the power to either build up or tear down your child’s self-esteem and their drive to succeed…or not.

1.Teach your children how to do things before you turn them loose with a project. Without instruction and teaching you’re simply setting them up to fail.

2.Your kids are going to make mistakes (screw some things up). You did, didn’t you? But when you teach by doing together, you not only teach your children new skills, but you enjoy quality time together. Instead of focusing on what your kids can’t do, provide them with more opportunities to do what they are good at.

3.If math doesn’t come easily to your child, trust me, they know about it. Shaming them into doing better won’t help—it will only make matters worse. So empathize with them and find ways to help them do their best.

4.Never compare your child to anyone else. We are all created in God’s image and in the words of Christian author, Darla Noble, “ God don’t make no junk!”

I hope this class was beneficial to you in your parenting journey. Your family is a blessing to this ministry.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Nobody's Perfect, Kids Included- Part One

Parents,
Happy New Year! I'm excited to say that our bi-monthly Parenting emails are back! This first one reminds me of how I've already fallen off my own New Year's Resolution, and to tell myself it's ok, no one is perfect, try again.                                                                                                                                
Nobody is perfect—you and your kids included. While I know this doesn’t come as a big surprise to you, intellectually, I also know that all too often parents choose to focus on their child’s imperfections instead of tending to their hearts.

The video this month covers the topic of allowing our children to be their unique and special self instead of what we think they should be. This is invaluable to parenting the way God intends you to. Click on the link below to watch the video on Overcoming Your Kid’s Failures.

After watching the video, please feel free to contact me with your thoughts and questions. I would also be happy to have you share with me specifics on how I can pray for your family.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/147477223/f8d4d3891d

Made In God’s Image,

Kim Constantino

How to Speak “Kid Language”, Part One

Parents,
Hello, there! How long has it been since you’ve thought about the difference between hearing and listening?

Hearing is the physical reaction of the brain to sound waves.

Listening, however, requires you to focus and make use of what you’re hearing.

I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard parents say that if their kids would listen to them things would be a lot better for the entire family. Well, guess what? I’m hoping this month’s Online Parenting Class helps you to make that happen.
The following link will take you to the parenting video that covers this important parenting issue.

Please take the time to watch and implement at least part of what you learn into your parenting ‘plan’. After watching, don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions or concerns you have about the video or your children. Let’s work together to make yours a Godly home.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/143995450/9c55eef958

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

How to Have a Scream Free Home, Part Two

Parents,

Hi! I hope you are having a great week and that you’ve had an opportunity to watch the parenting video dealing with our current topic of having a home where screaming and yelling do not exist.
Yelling should be reserved for high school football games (Go, team, go!) and games of hide-n-seek (Ready or not, here I come!). In other words, yelling is not appropriate when speaking to your children.

Even if you’re just calling the kids to supper, yelling shouldn’t be the method you opt for. Why? Actually there are several reasons, but the two primary reasons you shouldn’t yell at your kids are 1) yelling sends the message of tension and displeasure. When you yell your kids automatically assume you’re unhappy 2) yelling shows disrespect.

I want to provide you with scripture to place upon your heart; words to remind you of God’s desire for a peaceful home. Following the verses you will find suggestions for making your home a scream-free/yell-free, and less stressful zone.

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. ~Proverbs 17:1

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~Proverbs 15:1

To eliminate yelling from your home, why not set up a ‘penalty piggy bank’. Here’s how it works: put a jar of pennies next to the penalty pig that has a mailing label for each person in the family stuck to it. Every time someone yells, they have to pay a penny to the pig and put a mark on the sticker with their name on it. The person with the most marks at the end of each week has to do extra chores. FYI: Mom and Dad are just as liable as the kids are. When the bank is full, empty it and use the money to take everyone for ice cream.

Another way you can do this is to call a family meeting where you make a proclamation that says your home is a yell-free home, explain why yelling is not acceptable or allowed, and establish rules and penalties for yelling. For example, yelling is a good thing when calling for help in an emergency.

I consider it a blessing to be partnering with you for the sake of your family.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

How to Have a Scream Free Home, Part One

Parents,
It’s time to address another important parenting issue—the one of having a scream-free or yell-free home. Not only will this make for a more peaceful home, but it will also help to make your children calmer and more confident in who they are.
I know how easy it is to feel you have to raise your voice to be heard or even yell rather than going to your children to speak normally so they can hear you. But as parents, we owe it to our children and ourselves to speak in calmly and respectfully so they will learn to do the same.
The following link takes you to the parenting video that covers this lesson. Please watch the video and seriously consider taking the necessary steps to dial down the volume in your home.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me with comments and even requests on how I can pray for your family and be of assistance to you.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/142436353/e6913bda99

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Fun Ways To Study Scripture With Your Kids, Part 2

Parents,

Were you able to check out our Online Parenting Class video on fun ways to study scripture with your kids? Well, if you missed it then you can go to https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/141593132/13f9137123 to watch the video.

Just like we cannot expect our children to be proficient in math or English without sufficient instruction and practice, we cannot expect our children to know the Bible without sufficient exposure (reading and teaching).

Another valuable truth is that with so many things competing for their time and attention we need to make learning scripture both interesting and fun. To do this, try any one of the following:

Let family members take turns selecting a household item that represents a Bible story. Family members have to guess what story it is, then the person whose item it is tells the story.

While sitting around the dinner table, one person starts telling a Bible story then says, “Pass to (someone’s name). They have to finish the story.

Divide your family into two teams and draw Bible stories. The first team to win three rounds wins.

Have an old-fashioned Sword drill: Everyone holds their Bible in their laps (closed). The MC calls out a scripture reference (example: Hebrews 13:7). The first person to find it stands up and reads the verse.

WARNING: You and your family will enjoy time spent together learning God’s Word.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

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