Hi! I hope you are having a great week and that you’ve had an opportunity to watch the parenting video dealing with our current topic of having a home where screaming and yelling do not exist.
Yelling should be reserved for high school football games (Go, team, go!) and games of hide-n-seek (Ready or not, here I come!). In other words, yelling is not appropriate when speaking to your children.
Even if you’re just calling the kids to supper, yelling shouldn’t be the method you opt for. Why? Actually there are several reasons, but the two primary reasons you shouldn’t yell at your kids are 1) yelling sends the message of tension and displeasure. When you yell your kids automatically assume you’re unhappy 2) yelling shows disrespect.
I want to provide you with scripture to place upon your heart; words to remind you of God’s desire for a peaceful home. Following the verses you will find suggestions for making your home a scream-free/yell-free, and less stressful zone.
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. ~Proverbs 17:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~Proverbs 15:1
To eliminate yelling from your home, why not set up a ‘penalty piggy bank’. Here’s how it works: put a jar of pennies next to the penalty pig that has a mailing label for each person in the family stuck to it. Every time someone yells, they have to pay a penny to the pig and put a mark on the sticker with their name on it. The person with the most marks at the end of each week has to do extra chores. FYI: Mom and Dad are just as liable as the kids are. When the bank is full, empty it and use the money to take everyone for ice cream.
Another way you can do this is to call a family meeting where you make a proclamation that says your home is a yell-free home, explain why yelling is not acceptable or allowed, and establish rules and penalties for yelling. For example, yelling is a good thing when calling for help in an emergency.
I consider it a blessing to be partnering with you for the sake of your family.
Partnering with you,