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When You're Frustrated with Your Child, Part 2

Hey Parents,

Are you having a good week, or are you experiencing one of those weeks parents of preschoolers would like to forget ever happened?

Hopefully in all the hubbub of your life you’ve taken the time to watch this lesson’s video to help with those moments of frustration.

Needing a break from your kids is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s a normal emotion and one you need to act on in order to be a better parent. In other words, it’s not a matter of doing so, it’s HOW you do it that matters.

#1. Instead of saying something like “You’re driving me nuts, so go play somewhere else!” say, “Mommy needs a bit of quiet time so I need you to play in there while I stay in here.”

#2. Limit the number of noise-makers (as in toys) allowed in the house.

#3. Provide a safe, secure, and fun outdoor area for your kids to play in for a while each day. This could be your backyard or a nearby park. While they’re playing, you can read a book or visit with a friend. Don’t worry, as long as they’re dressed properly, they’ll be fine.

#4. Don’t use words or phrases like: brat, you’re driving me nuts, you’re bad, get out of here, get out of my way, I don’t care, I don’t want to hear you, and get lost.

#5. Let your children know when their behavior isn’t acceptable, but do so by saying, “What you are doing isn’t very nice, so please stop.” Or “I need you to be quiet so I don’t get upset.” Or “Inside voices are the only voices allowed inside.” Or “You need to be a better listener so we can all have a good day.”

Children need boundaries but as a parent it is your job to let them know the boundaries are as friendly as they are safe. Psalm 16:5-6 is a great passage to help you remember how to be a less-frustrated parent…

“Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.” Psalm 16:5-6

Remember…your preschoolers really are a delightful inheritance.

Yours in Christ,

Kim Constantino

When You're Frustrated with Your Child, Part One

Hi, Parents,

I hope your week is off to a great start. This month’s Online Parenting Class is on Frustration. I pray that you can gain some reassurance from watching.

Hey, I get it. Parenting is hard no matter how well-behaved or easy your kids are. And there are times when you want to throw in the towel, lock yourself in the bathroom, or go to the mall or golf course and pretend you don’t even know those little stinkers exist. But it never takes long for those feelings to go away does it? Especially when you hear, “Mommy, I just love you so much.” Or “Daddy, I need you to kiss me goodnight.”

Most of the time our frustration as parents stems from our lack of trust in ourselves—we don’t think we’re getting things right or are afraid our preschooler’s meltdown is a sign that we’re failing as parents. Not true! Preschoolers are a unique and wonderful species all their own. So relax, take a deep breath, keep on praying, and don’t forget I’m here to help however I can.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/149146295/f2c90ff462

In Christ,

Kim Constantino

Screen Time, Part Two

Hi,

Hopefully by now you’ve watched the video that goes with this lesson on addressing screen time and your preschooler. If you have, you know it was filled with practical and relevant information on how to make digital technology a positive for your preschooler rather than a negative.

We can’t deny the benefits of technology or the fact that our kids are going to be surrounded by it for the rest of their lives. That’s why it is important to teach them how to manage their screen time properly now and how to be discerning about their digital media. Well, as discerning as a preschooler can be, anyway.

1. Block site access to anything that might be dangerous. Even seemingly harmless searches can put you and your preschooler in places you don’t need to be.

2. Set time limits on your child’s devices. When the allotted amount of time has been spent on the device, it times out.

3. Download apps that enhance your preschooler’s spiritual growth; apps like the free interactive Bible.

4. Play educational games online with your preschooler.

5. Make sure your preschooler knows how to operate the television, computer, and phone properly. Knowing how to use these things properly makes it easier to use safely.

6. Don’t allow your preschooler to be online without you being present.

7. Don’t let your preschooler rely too heavily on technology. Teach them to play board games, play outside by themselves and with other kids, and do things like paint, play with craft dough, dig in the dirt….

8. LIMIT their time in front of a screen of any kind. Not only is too much screen time bad for their eyes, but it hinders the development of their social skills, confidence among their peers, and their ability to process situations in any number of social and public settings.

God didn’t create this beautiful world and the people in it so we can shut it all out for the sake of animation and lightening-speed processing.

“When I look at your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him?” ~Psalm 8:3-4.

Serving God together,

Kim Constantino

Screen time, Part One

Dear Parents,

Happy New Year! I'm excited to say that our bi-monthly Parenting Emails are back. This first one is about an important topic that we can all benefit from evaluating in our own lives; Screen Time.

This is the digital age and the age of rapid technological advancement. We can’t run from it, so we have to make sure we understand it, are in tune to it, and most importantly, in control of it—rather than letting it control us or our kids.

This Online Parenting Class video helps you come to grips with how much screen time your preschooler should be experiencing. After you watch the video, I urge you to get in touch with me regarding any comments or questions you have.

Let’s work together to make sure technology works for the good of your family’s spiritual growth instead of against it.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/149143125/89fb85608a

Signing out,

Kim Constantino

Picky Eaters, Part One

Dear Parents,

Who likes brussel sprouts? Bread crusts? Soggy cereal? Not your preschooler, I bet!

Dealing with a picky eater can be challenging to the point of I-want-to-pull-my-hair-out frustration. But don’t worry, there is hope and help to be had.

The video for this lesson addresses the issue of preschoolers who are picky eaters. No, there’s no pill or sure-fire cure you can offer, but you will be given tips that have proven successful to help you a) deal with the issue and b) rectify the situation (to some degree, anyway).

Thank you for allowing me to partner with you in your parenting journey. I consider it a privilege. Please let me know if there is any way I can be of further assistance to you and your family.

Don’t hesitate to get in touch with me to let me know how I can pray for you and your family.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/149143123/9d66ed1be5

Feasting on God’s grace,

Kim Constantino

I’m Afraid of the Dark, Part Two

Parents,
I hope this month’s Online Parenting Class blessed you.
Let’s continue our ‘discussion’ on helping your child deal with their fear of the dark. It’s something nearly every parent is faced with at one time or another. Chances are you were even afraid of the dark when you were a preschooler. And since I’m fairly certain you’ve gotten over that fear, it’s safe to say your child will do the same. As a parent, you can make it a bit easier for them if you:

1.Don’t make fun of them or belittle them for being afraid. Their fears are real and big, and it’s your job to make them smaller and smaller until they’re gone.

2.This is a case for show-n-tell. It’s not enough to tell a preschooler they don’t have to be afraid of the dark. You have to show them there’s nothing to be afraid of. Look in the closet, under the bed, or outside the window with them, proving all is well.

3.Plug in a night light or put glow-in-the-dark shapes on their wall or ceiling to help lull them to sleep and calm their fears. NOTE: The glow-in-the-dark shapes are especially helpful since it has to be dark for them to work. This helps little ones see the dark as a fun place to be.

4.Eat family dinners by candlelight once in a while. This makes the dark a peaceful, happy place to be. 5.Lay on a blanket outside and look up at the stars with your preschooler. Talk to them about the stars and how God made the earth so perfect and wonderful.

6.Pray with your preschooler each night at bedtime with the lights out. Make sure you thank God for the dark that helps us rest, and pray for your little one’s heart to be at peace.

The Bible says, “ In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” ~Psalm 4:8

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

I’m Afraid of the Dark, Part One

Dear Parents,

Everyone is afraid of something or a few somethings. For preschoolers, the list usually includes big dogs, getting in trouble, being away from you, and the dark. The dark—that’s a really scary place!

This video enables you to help your preschooler overcome what we know to be an unjustified fear. You’ll discover how to do so without making your preschooler feel worthless or dumb. You’ll discover that by acknowledging their fear as real you can replace it with something just as real…only better.

When working with your preschooler to overcome their fear of the dark, don’t be afraid to let them know what you are afraid of now as well as what you were afraid of at their age, and tell them how you came to terms with these things. I also want you to remember that I’m here to help in any way I can.

Don’t hesitate to get in touch with me to let me know how I can pray for you and your family.
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/149143124/c0b98fc7bc

Thanks for being such a great parent,

Kim Constantino

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