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Making New Friends, Part One

Hi Parents,

Friends are an important part of life. We all want and need them. Making friends, however, is an art that everyone needs to acquire—your preschooler included. Please watch this month’s Online Parenting Class it is an excellent source of help to you in teaching your preschooler how to make friends the right way.

One of the best things about being a parent is being able to watch your children enjoy the things that come with having friends. Their smiles, giggles, fun, and games are memories you will place in your heart and hold on to for a lifetime. Let me know how I can be of help to you in teaching your child to make and be a good friend.

Praying For You,

Kim Constantino

Putting A Stop To Tattling, Part Two


While the Bible is definitely the ultimate authority when it comes to morals, decision-making, and growing in faith, I have to say that the Berenstain Bears sure have a lot going on.
In the book, The Berenstain Bears Learn about Strangers, Brother Bear gets upset with Sister Bear because he feels like she is tattling on him. Momma Bear puts a stop to their argument and explains that Sister Bear wasn’t tattling—she was telling what happened because she was worried and upset. Momma Bear went on to say explain the difference by saying that tattling is telling on someone because you can and because you want to get them in trouble. That’s what you have to do—teach your children the difference between telling and tattling and teach them why it isn’t nice to tattle.

Before we get into that, though, let’s remind ourselves of why preschoolers tattle.

Sometimes their tattling is innocent. They’re just little town criers who want to spread the news. And then there is the fact that they are discovering the power and capability they possess to manipulate their surroundings by telling on someone.
Either way, you can squelch this trait in your preschooler by:

1.Reading the Berenstain Bear book mentioned above and talking about it afterwards.

2.Not responding to the tattling in the way your preschooler wants you to. When cause and effect don’t happen, he/she will usually stop.

3.When your preschooler tattles on someone, for an actual offense, ask “ What do you want me to do?” Then talk about their answer.

4.If tattling is frequent, simply say, “ You and __________ need to learn to get along. If you need help, I’ll help you, but I won’t listen to tattling.”

As you watched the Online Parenting Class video, I hope you were able to take a lot of encouragement from what you saw and were reminded of how important it is for us to teach our children to control their tongues. As I end this, I want to give you a couple of important Bible verses to share with your preschooler when talking to them about using their words wisely:

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. ~Colossians 4:6

To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people. ~Titus 3:2

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~Ephesians 4:29

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Tattle Tale, Tattle Tale…, Part One

Hi Parents,

The preschool years are full of wonder, excitement, rapid development, and adventures for your little ones.

Most of these are equally exciting and adventurous for you, too, but oh, how we wish we could skip some of them…especially the art of tattling. The video that goes with this lesson is one you will not want to miss. It provides insight as to why preschoolers tattle as well as advice on how to handle this milestone in development before it gets out of hand. After you watch the video, take a few minutes to jot down your thoughts and any questions you have so we can talk about them.                                                                                                      

Praying for you,

Kim Constantino

How To Deal With Backtalk, Part Two


I hope you’ve had the opportunity to watch the parenting video that goes with this lesson.

The task of teaching your preschooler to use their words respectfully and politely can be challenging; especially since they don’t always understand when they’ve said something inappropriate.

Hopefully, however, the following tips will help you get the job done.

1.Speak to your preschooler the way you want them to speak to you and to others.

2.Don’t over-react. When your preschooler says something they shouldn’t, calmly but firmly explain that this isn’t a) a word they are allowed to use or b) this is not a nice way to talk. Follow this by giving them a good word to use and/or demonstrate the proper way to say what they said.

3.When your preschooler says something in a sassy or disrespectful voice, tell them to repeat what they said the right way.

4.Be consistent. Don’t allow your preschooler to sass you when they’re tired but not when they’re fully rested.

Your children are God’s gift to you. Treat them with all the TLC they deserve, and don’t forget to live God’s Word as you parent them through their preschool years.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” ~Ephesians 6:4

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6

Partnering with you,

          Kim Constantino

How To Deal With Backtalk, Part One

Think back to the not-so-distant past when you couldn’t wait for your little one to say “Momma”, “Dadda”,
“Bye-bye”, “Thank-you” and all those other wonderful first words.

You were awed and amazed by everything they said. Now that they’ve become preschoolers though, their vocabulary is increasing daily, but now you wish they weren’t quite so verbal.

Our current Online Parenting Class video addresses this issue by offering practical advice and wisdom in dealing with a preschooler’s sassy backtalk in a way that will be pleasing to God while creating an atmosphere of positivity in your home. After you’ve watched the video, please feel free to get back to me in order to share one or two ways this video encouraged you in this area of your parenting journey.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Take Time For Yourself

I hope your week is off to a great start!
This month, our Online Parenting Class is on the topic of The Best Thing You Can Do for Your Child,” and addresses the importance of self-care.

The topic of this lesson is especially important because if you aren’t taking great care of yourself, you can’t take great care of your kids. Taking care of yourself is not only good for you and your kids, it’s something God commands us to do because our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit: Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. ~1st Corinthians 6:19-20.

I want to remind you that I love and care about each of you. Please let me know how I help you, and how I can pray for you and our family.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Taming The Tantrums, Part Two


How’s it going?

I hope you were able to watch our online parenting class on Taming the Tantrums.

Today we’re going to continue the conversation by reading some encouraging Scripture.

Listen to what Ephesians 4:26 says about tantrums: “In your anger do not sin…” Ephesians 4:26 (NIV) Here are two lessons we can learn from this Scripture to help with the tantrums our children have.

1. Preschoolers WILL get angry. As children grow and develop opinions and desires of their own, they will inevitably get irritated when things don’t go their way or when you “mess up” their plan. We cannot expect them to be happy and “roll with the flow” all of the time, especially when it is difficult for us as adults to follow that rhythm.
2. It should be the parent’s mission to assist their preschooler in navigating through their anger. Part of the parent’s job is to help them work through their feelings and teach them how to respond appropriately when feelings of anger arise. One way to do this best is by setting a good example for them in how you respond during frustrating situations.
So as you are engaging your kids today, don’t forget that each tantrum is a teaching moment for them to learn to portray self-control in how they communicate their anger.

We’ll see you in next month’s Online Parenting Class.

This has meant to be a resource that encourages and helps you. Please remember that our ministry cares about your family, and we love serving you!

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino