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Consider The Source, Part Two


Hopefully by now you’ve watched the video on how to discern between good parenting advice and that which isn’t so good. Having older parents you look up to and who you can count on for advice, encouragement, and help is a great thing. A Godly thing.

But there are times when we are made to doubt our abilities as parents; times when people insert themselves into your family when they shouldn’t, times when criticism and ‘advice’ are given freely, yet unjustifiably, and times when you let the seeds of doubt sprout in your head and heart because of something you do (or don’t do). It happens to all of us. That’s just one of the non-perks of parenting. How you deal with these situations, however, makes all the difference in the world both for you and for your child. SO…*When you are criticized for how you parent, consider the motive behind the criticism.

If it really is out of love and concern, acknowledge it and explain that you don’t see things that way. If it’s out of jealousy or pettiness, ignore it, pray for confidence and courage, and go on. *If you are under continual or constant scrutiny (a mother, mother in-law, etc.), don’t run from the situation or ignore it. Let the person know you respect them, but that ultimately the children are yours to raise and you are doing so according to the way you and your spouse think best. Then tell them if they don’t want to risk further damage to your relationship, they need to keep their thoughts to themselves.

*Acknowledge that you just might be wrong or have something to learn in some cases. Again, this will often depend on the spirit in which you are spoken to. Think about what was said, pray about it, and let God speak to you. Ultimately, the choice is yours, but as long as you are following God’s voice and his Word in regards to loving, teaching, and disciplining your child, you can lay down each night knowing you’ve done well that day.

Remember…And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. ~Colossians 3:14.

When you love your children as Christ loves us, you are doing all you can.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

You Can Do It! Part One

Dear Parents,

We’ve already covered the fact that parenting doesn’t have to be a Lone Ranger kind of job—that it’s okay to have a few mentors and reinforcements.
But I’m sure you can recall a few times in your life as a parent when you’ve gotten some unwarranted advice or even scolding in regards to your parenting skills.

Most of this comes from well-meaning sources (your mom, sister, grandma, or an older friend), but it still doesn’t make it easy to take…or right. The video that accompanies this lesson will help you navigate these situations in a Godly and loving manner. It will also remind you of the all-important fact that God chose YOU to be your child’s parents.

He trusts you to do your best to raise up Godly young people to continue the work of his Kingdom here on Earth. So take heart, have courage, and know when to listen and when to smile politely and walk away. This video will also remind you of what a blessing it is to be chosen by God to share his creation with him. Thanks for being such a great parent,

Thanks for being such a great parent,

Kim Constantino

Making Friends, Part Two


We’re still on the subject of friends—how to help your preschooler make them and be one.

After all, friends are a very important part of life. Jesus had friends. Twelve good friends and from those twelve, three close friends, and from those three, one BFF named John.
I hope you have had a chance to watch the Online Parenting Class video on How to Make New Friends. I also want to encourage you to follow the suggestions below so that your preschooler’s early experiences in the world of friends will be positive experiences.

#1 Don’t overwhelm your preschooler by offering too many playdates and too many faces at a time.

#2 Don’t push your preschooler to be friends with someone YOU think they should be friends with. Let them gravitate towards the people they feel most compatible with. That’s what you do, isn’t it?

#3 Take the time to really know your child—what they enjoy doing, where they enjoy spending time, the activities they most enjoy, and whether or not they prefer small groups, one-on-one, or large group settings. Take your cue from these things to put your child in these situations to make friends.

#4 Teach, use, and reinforce their use of manners at home so they will use them with others.

#5 Don’t expect too much. Preschoolers are learning how to make and be friends. They’re going to experience bouts of selfishness, shyness, aggressiveness, and tattling. Work with them to solve these issues instead of condemning them for it.

#6 Be an example of what a good friend is to your friends and to your spouse.

God knows the value of friendships. That’s why he put the following verses in the Bible for us to remember. Teach your preschooler to know these verses, too.

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. ~Proverbs 17:17

And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. ~Luke 6:31

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Making New Friends, Part One

Hi Parents,

Friends are an important part of life. We all want and need them. Making friends, however, is an art that everyone needs to acquire—your preschooler included. Please watch this month’s Online Parenting Class it is an excellent source of help to you in teaching your preschooler how to make friends the right way.

One of the best things about being a parent is being able to watch your children enjoy the things that come with having friends. Their smiles, giggles, fun, and games are memories you will place in your heart and hold on to for a lifetime. Let me know how I can be of help to you in teaching your child to make and be a good friend.

Praying For You,

Kim Constantino

Putting A Stop To Tattling, Part Two


While the Bible is definitely the ultimate authority when it comes to morals, decision-making, and growing in faith, I have to say that the Berenstain Bears sure have a lot going on.
In the book, The Berenstain Bears Learn about Strangers, Brother Bear gets upset with Sister Bear because he feels like she is tattling on him. Momma Bear puts a stop to their argument and explains that Sister Bear wasn’t tattling—she was telling what happened because she was worried and upset. Momma Bear went on to say explain the difference by saying that tattling is telling on someone because you can and because you want to get them in trouble. That’s what you have to do—teach your children the difference between telling and tattling and teach them why it isn’t nice to tattle.

Before we get into that, though, let’s remind ourselves of why preschoolers tattle.

Sometimes their tattling is innocent. They’re just little town criers who want to spread the news. And then there is the fact that they are discovering the power and capability they possess to manipulate their surroundings by telling on someone.
Either way, you can squelch this trait in your preschooler by:

1.Reading the Berenstain Bear book mentioned above and talking about it afterwards.

2.Not responding to the tattling in the way your preschooler wants you to. When cause and effect don’t happen, he/she will usually stop.

3.When your preschooler tattles on someone, for an actual offense, ask “ What do you want me to do?” Then talk about their answer.

4.If tattling is frequent, simply say, “ You and __________ need to learn to get along. If you need help, I’ll help you, but I won’t listen to tattling.”

As you watched the Online Parenting Class video, I hope you were able to take a lot of encouragement from what you saw and were reminded of how important it is for us to teach our children to control their tongues. As I end this, I want to give you a couple of important Bible verses to share with your preschooler when talking to them about using their words wisely:

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person. ~Colossians 4:6

To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people. ~Titus 3:2

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~Ephesians 4:29

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Tattle Tale, Tattle Tale…, Part One

Hi Parents,

The preschool years are full of wonder, excitement, rapid development, and adventures for your little ones.

Most of these are equally exciting and adventurous for you, too, but oh, how we wish we could skip some of them…especially the art of tattling. The video that goes with this lesson is one you will not want to miss. It provides insight as to why preschoolers tattle as well as advice on how to handle this milestone in development before it gets out of hand. After you watch the video, take a few minutes to jot down your thoughts and any questions you have so we can talk about them.                                                                                                      

Praying for you,

Kim Constantino

How To Deal With Backtalk, Part Two


I hope you’ve had the opportunity to watch the parenting video that goes with this lesson.

The task of teaching your preschooler to use their words respectfully and politely can be challenging; especially since they don’t always understand when they’ve said something inappropriate.

Hopefully, however, the following tips will help you get the job done.

1.Speak to your preschooler the way you want them to speak to you and to others.

2.Don’t over-react. When your preschooler says something they shouldn’t, calmly but firmly explain that this isn’t a) a word they are allowed to use or b) this is not a nice way to talk. Follow this by giving them a good word to use and/or demonstrate the proper way to say what they said.

3.When your preschooler says something in a sassy or disrespectful voice, tell them to repeat what they said the right way.

4.Be consistent. Don’t allow your preschooler to sass you when they’re tired but not when they’re fully rested.

Your children are God’s gift to you. Treat them with all the TLC they deserve, and don’t forget to live God’s Word as you parent them through their preschool years.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” ~Ephesians 6:4

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6

Partnering with you,

          Kim Constantino