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Taking Pride in Who God Made Them to Be

Dear Parent,

This month our focus is on valuing our teens in order to teach them how to take pride in who they are and what they can accomplish. Your teenager lives in a “today” world and doesn’t much think about the “tomorrow” world unless you are talking about senior prom or college. And those are just vague ideas that have rainbows and lollipops dancing all around them!

Our teens need to learn that so many of the decisions, efforts, and choices that they are making right now will directly affect their future. But if they don’t value who they are or take pride in what they do right now, how can we expect them to understand the importance of some far off distant future?

Please take a moment to watch this second video on how we can help our teens value themselves to the point of caring!

Your Partner in Parenting,

Pastor Deknatel

Planning "On Purpose" Time with Your Teenager pt 2

Dear Parent,

 

Out of the mouths of babes! If you haven’t had a chance to watch last week’s video, you may want to take a moment and hear what teenagers are saying about spending “on purpose” time with their parents!http://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/65615027/02192fbe51

Just to make it clear, they want to spend time with us. Even if it’s hard. Especially if it’s hard. It means that we aren’t going anywhere. It means that we love them unconditionally, first. There is something to be said about being someone’s priority. And “on purpose” time tells your teenager that they are definitely your priority.

Schedules are packed, time is scarce, patience is often thin. And it is for that very reason why this is so important! Just ask yourself how you would feel if another person dropped everything just to invest in you. You might never receive encouragement, or a thank you, or even a grunt from your teenager. But you will make an impact, because you are their greatest influence!

Walking this journey with you,

Pastor Deknatel

Planning "On Purpose" Time with Your Teenager

Dear Parent,

The phrase for this month that we are focusing on is “on purpose.” There are so many things that we give priority to and make sure that we are intentional about. Is spending time with your teenager one of those things? Are you “on purpose” or intentional about scheduling a specific time with your teen with no outside distractions? Do you think your teenager even cares?

Take a moment if you will and watch this video about what our teenagers think about spending “on purpose” time with their parents. It might just surprise you!

http://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/65615027/02192fbe51

Your Partner in Parenting,

Pastor Deknatel

Harnessing Your Spiritual Influence pt 2

Dear Parents,

Understanding the role you as parents have in the spiritual training of your teen is so important.

It can get a little mixed up at times. I know it’s easier to let someone else argue your point for you, but you need to know that your teen listens to you much more than anyone else. It doesn’t seem like it, I know, but it is true.

I want to be your backup, not the other way around.

Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.

This verse is not a guarantee that your child will “repeat” your faith but it is an assurance that your influence in their lives makes an impression that they can’t forget. It is my goal to cheer you on as you make your mark of influence on the soul of your teenager. Let’s work together to paint such a beautiful picture of Christ that they run to Him with their trust.

Have God-confidence in your ability to train them to become Godly adults. After all, He chose you to be their parent.

Walking this journey with you,

Pastor Deknatel

Harnessing Your Spiritual Influence

Dear Parents,
What is a baked potato without a steak? French fries without a juicy hamburger? Salad dressing without a salad (for those healthy eaters)? It is incomplete and somehow lacking. The same goes for the spiritual teaching in our teenager’s life if we as parents don’t become actively involved. The youth ministry was never intended to be the sole source of spiritual training.
Ask yourself this question. Who do I depend on to teach my teenager the precepts of God? This question is often easy to answer but very hard to admit. You don’t need a degree in theology to have confidence in teaching your teenager about who God is and what you believe. You just need His confidence. It’s called God-confidence.

I encourage you to watch this month’s video regarding your role vs. the role of your youth ministry in the spiritual education of your teen. It will give you a good idea on how to become involved: http://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/62786302/51734c2974

Walking this journey with you,

Pastor Deknatel

Sibling Rivalry Pt 2

Dear Parent,

We are talking about sibling rivalry this month and if you missed the video from our last email, you can go to https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/60761630/c5128ceae7 to catch up!

This isn’t an easy issue by a stretch.  We are dealing with unique individuals with specific ideas that haven’t learned yet that the idea they are holding so tightly to very possibly could be flawed.  This might actually come as a surprise to your teen.  Teenagers react very passionately to perceived injustices.

It reminds me of Luke 9 when Jesus was speaking to His disciples after His transfiguration.  It should have been one of the most spiritually encouraging events for his disciples but somehow it ended up in an argument about who had more importance to Jesus among the Twelve.  Sibling rivalry.  All Jesus had to say was, “Whoever is least among you, this one is the greatest.”

We have to teach our teens that it’s about others.  But first our actions will be much louder than our words!

Your Biggest Fan,

Pastor Deknatel

Sibling Rivalry pt 1

Dear Parents,

Have you ever heard that silence can be loud?  It’s that very loud, very obvious absence of sound after your teenager has just had another argument with their sibling and stomped off in the other direction.  Does it ever stop?  Do they really love each other?

We will be discussing sibling rivalry this month and what you, as the parent, can do to foster relationship between your teen and their sibling(s).

Please take a moment and watch this 3 minute and  47 second video that may help give you some idea as to what is going on in their heads.

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/60761630/c5128ceae7

Your Partner in Ministry,

Pastor Deknatel

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