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How to Have a Scream Free Home, Part Two


Hi! I hope you are having a great week and that you’ve had an opportunity to watch the parenting video dealing with our current topic of having a home where screaming and yelling do not exist.
Yelling should be reserved for high school football games (Go, team, go!) and games of hide-n-seek (Ready or not, here I come!). In other words, yelling is not appropriate when speaking to your children.

Even if you’re just calling the kids to supper, yelling shouldn’t be the method you opt for. Why? Actually there are several reasons, but the two primary reasons you shouldn’t yell at your kids are 1) yelling sends the message of tension and displeasure. When you yell your kids automatically assume you’re unhappy 2) yelling shows disrespect.

I want to provide you with scripture to place upon your heart; words to remind you of God’s desire for a peaceful home. Following the verses you will find suggestions for making your home a scream-free/yell-free, and less stressful zone.

Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. ~Proverbs 17:1

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~Proverbs 15:1

To eliminate yelling from your home, why not set up a ‘penalty piggy bank’. Here’s how it works: put a jar of pennies next to the penalty pig that has a mailing label for each person in the family stuck to it. Every time someone yells, they have to pay a penny to the pig and put a mark on the sticker with their name on it. The person with the most marks at the end of each week has to do extra chores. FYI: Mom and Dad are just as liable as the kids are. When the bank is full, empty it and use the money to take everyone for ice cream.

Another way you can do this is to call a family meeting where you make a proclamation that says your home is a yell-free home, explain why yelling is not acceptable or allowed, and establish rules and penalties for yelling. For example, yelling is a good thing when calling for help in an emergency.

I consider it a blessing to be partnering with you for the sake of your family.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

How to Have a Scream Free Home, Part One

It’s time to address another important parenting issue—the one of having a scream-free or yell-free home. Not only will this make for a more peaceful home, but it will also help to make your children calmer and more confident in who they are.
I know how easy it is to feel you have to raise your voice to be heard or even yell rather than going to your children to speak normally so they can hear you. But as parents, we owe it to our children and ourselves to speak in calmly and respectfully so they will learn to do the same.
The following link takes you to the parenting video that covers this lesson. Please watch the video and seriously consider taking the necessary steps to dial down the volume in your home.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me with comments and even requests on how I can pray for your family and be of assistance to you.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Fun Ways To Study Scripture With Your Kids, Part 2


Were you able to check out our Online Parenting Class video on fun ways to study scripture with your kids? Well, if you missed it then you can go to to watch the video.

Just like we cannot expect our children to be proficient in math or English without sufficient instruction and practice, we cannot expect our children to know the Bible without sufficient exposure (reading and teaching).

Another valuable truth is that with so many things competing for their time and attention we need to make learning scripture both interesting and fun. To do this, try any one of the following:

Let family members take turns selecting a household item that represents a Bible story. Family members have to guess what story it is, then the person whose item it is tells the story.

While sitting around the dinner table, one person starts telling a Bible story then says, “Pass to (someone’s name). They have to finish the story.

Divide your family into two teams and draw Bible stories. The first team to win three rounds wins.

Have an old-fashioned Sword drill: Everyone holds their Bible in their laps (closed). The MC calls out a scripture reference (example: Hebrews 13:7). The first person to find it stands up and reads the verse.

WARNING: You and your family will enjoy time spent together learning God’s Word.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Fun Ways to Study Scripture with Your Child

Raising our children to pursue a personal relationship with God is something every Christian parent wants, but statistics show that only five percent of teens study the Bible on their own on a daily basis and over half of teens say they read or study their Bible away from church.

I don’t think I need to tell you that these numbers are not very encouraging. But I’m also happy to tell you that YOU can influence your children to be one of the five percent who study their Bible every day. How? By getting creative, that’s how!

For ways to make studying scripture with your kids more fun, check out this months online parenting class.
It will give you a good start towards making positive changes in your home in this area. I hope you find this lesson helpful. You are always welcome to email me with any prayer requests your family may have.
I truly enjoy serving your family

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Dealing with a Rebellious Child Part 2


In the world of psychology there exists a law called the Law of Reinforcement: Behavior which achieves desirable consequences will recur. I think we’d all agree that rebellious behavior is NOT something that we want to occur in our children, so we have to begin with the question,” Is there a desirable consequence my child receives when he disobeys? Is there a reward for their rebellion that leads them to continue rebelling?”

In James Dobson’s Dare to Discipline he says, “If you can’t make a five-year-old pick up his toys, it is unlikely you will exercise much control during his most defiant time of life.” However, it’s been proven that harsh, unloving and critical parenting can drive a child to rebellion. So how do we walk the fine line of making our child do what they should without ruling with an iron fist?

The answer lies in how the Lord disciplines us. Take the time to ask yourself how the Lord has disciplined you. Has he been patient? Has he been forgiving? At times has he allowed you to suffer the consequences of your sin?

Hebrews 12:10-11 says God’s point in discipline is holiness. So shall our discipline be for our children. “For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, that we may share His holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

As you handle defiance and rebellion in your child, here are a few quick reminders:

  • Be decisive. Land on a consequence and enact it upon rebellion.
  • Give them the appropriate amount of power. It’s OK to decide what clothes to wear as long as they’re acceptable to school, and you don’t get sick wearing shorts in the snow.
  • Figure out the root of rebellion, the why behind the behavior.
  • Keeping your cool is just as important as consistency.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

Dealing with a Rebellious Child


More than likely I don’t need to define rebellion to you. You’ve seen it with your own eyes, but for the sake of us being on the same page, here ya go: Rebellion is resistance and/or defiance to authority. As parents we all see our children rebel at some level because, in the end, they’re created to be their own individual. When we place restraints on them, they push back.

Rebellion looks vastly different as your child ages. In the preschool years you may have experienced the tantrum, crying, and pouting when you put boundaries on them. During the school age years rebellion looks differently. It takes the form of disobedience (not doing what you’ve told them to do or doing it VERY SLOWLY) or arguing. This month we want to help you tackle dealing with a rebellious child.

Later this month we’ll follow up with another email that will guide you through LOVING discipline that corrects rebellion.

Partnering with you,

Kim Constantino

NOT a parenting superhero-Part 2


Current culture says to our children, you can be anything you want to be. The truth is they can TRY to be anything that they want, but they will fail. Our children, just like us, have been uniquely designed and created for purpose. One of the biggest ideas that will help us discover that purpose is working through failure.

We allow our children to fail when we STOP overparenting. Overparenting is actually a word, and we’ve created it. Here’s the definition:

We overparent when we are excessively involved in the day to day life of our children, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations and help them succeed.

Of course we want our children to succeed. A researcher named La Ferle says this of overparenting, “We take personally the things that happen to our kids, and if our kids succeed, we are successful parents. If they fail, it’s a bad reflection on us. If we can get over that, then that’s good. Sometimes we need to step back and not use our kids as trophies.”

The Bible is clear that we are NOT enough, and it’s a good thing. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 says, “But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Let’s ban together, committing to STOP overparenting, allow our children to fail, learn from those failures, and find that true strength comes from God IN them.

Partnering with you,

Kim  Constantino